You’ve built a life, but the strategies that got you here won’t take you where you’re going next. What would it be like to move beneath the surface and begin truly inhabiting your life?
Begin the Inquiry*A 20-minute conversation to explore your needs and see if we’re a good match.
They were built to protect us, these patterns often stay long after they are needed: running quietly in the background, shaping choices we don't even realize we're making.
Which ones sound familiar? Click any that feel like yours.
Over time survival strategies inevitably become a ceiling, and when this happens it creates a chronic state of internal pressure and fatigue.
Beneath that exhaustion, your truest nature was never lost.
The path to integration
Transformation doesn't happen when we just think differently; it happens when we inhabit the spaces we have long avoided. Our work is the bridge between knowing your patterns and being someone who is no longer limited by them.
A Laboratory for Being
We shift from 'talking about' to 'feeling into,' using the body's intelligence to find exactly where you are stuck.
We identify the different 'voices' in your system, moving from being controlled by them to leading them with clarity.
We practice staying with your experience in real-time, expanding your capacity to handle the high stakes of your life.
My path to coaching was paved by twenty years in the high-stress worlds of tech, startups, and social impact. In those environments, I saw a recurring pattern: no matter how brilliant the strategy or the team, the ultimate limit of any endeavor, or any relationship, is the internal capacity of the people within it.
I realized that the quality of my life wasn't defined by the problems I solved, but by the quality of the relationships I navigated along the way. My work is deeply informed by my own lived experience: leading teams through organizational shifts, navigating the evolving layers of a long-term life partnership, and parenting neurodiverse children.
Today, I combine a "big picture" systems lens with evidence-based practices to help you move beyond reactive patterns. While our work may begin with the challenges you’re facing today, my goal is to help you expand the container of who you are. By building this internal capacity, you develop the presence and resilience needed to navigate both today’s struggles and tomorrow’s unknowns with a grounded sense of clarity, connection, and wholeness.
Beyond the Work: Based in Seattle, I draw resilience and a sense of playfulness from the Pacific Northwest mountains. I am an avid runner, mountain biker, and skate skier who finds "spark" from being in the forest. When I’m not on the trails, I’m likely gardening, cooking for friends, or cheering on my two adult children as they navigate the transition of launching into the world.
"Monica helped me dig deep into my fears and learn how to acknowledge them, accept them, and use them to guide me. She was understanding, calm, and insightful."
"Working with Monica was the catalyst we needed. She took us from a standstill to having a better understanding of our interpersonal dynamics. We were able to find joy again in our partnership."
"I am terrific at showing grace to others, but learned to give it to myself through this process. Monica helped me find balance with these parts."
"Each session was an inner adventure. Monica’s genuine curiosity, depth of questions, and spacious presence helped me navigate a major personal and professional transition with ease."
"Having a compassionate, trusted ear to guide me through rough waters was a lifesaver. Monica helped me navigate a very difficult period of life."
"Monica is a complete pro with many helpful insights and ways of looking at things. If the circumstances allowed I would have loved to continue on for many more months."
Effective transformation rarely follows a single, linear path. By bridging somatic, contemplative, and inquiry-based practices, I access the specific tools that resonate with your inner landscape as it unfolds.
Sensing & Regulation
Lineage: Peter Levine & Eugene Gendlin
Body-based awareness for nervous system regulation. We move beyond "talking about" stress to processing it through your physiology.
Internal Alignment
Lineage: IFS (Richard Schwartz) & C.G. Jung
Engaging the inner system as a dynamic map. By relating to parts with curiosity, you move from being controlled by patterns to leading from wholeness.
Phenomenology
Lineage: Heidegger & A.H. Almaas
An exploration of how you inhabit your life. We work with Absence (a sometimes unsettling emptiness that can arise) and Presence, the clarity of being you.
Meditative Inquiry
Lineage: Vajrayana Buddhism & Neuroscience
Recognizing the innate radiance of awareness already present within you to cultivate resilience and equanimity.
Embodied Imagination
Lineage: Robert Bosnak & James Hillman
Treating dreams as living worlds. By somatically inhabiting dream figures, we allow innate wisdom to metabolize directly through the body.
"Want to build the capacity to inhabit your life, fully, and for the long haul?"